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Monday, November 27, 2006

Sometimes, going through so much adversity together can be tiring. Frequently, it can be more than downright exhausting. And there will be so many times either side would want to give up, simply out of sheer weariness, or because of fear, because of pain, because of past ghosts of memories haunting the present.

But, after knowing what's going through in the relationship with a long-sundered acquaintance, I found myself being thankful for the adversities we've gone through. Or, maybe I should say: I found myself being thankful for the lessons we learnt; more speficially, I learnt.

It took the hardships (long discussions and fears about religions; talking about our past wounds; dealing with present stresses and demands by ourselves and by others; tight tempers and frayed nerves...you get the idea) to build up a certain level of trust, of knowing that when things go wrong, one can count on the other as much as possible.

It takes a certain level of trust in the other not to possess him, nor smother him, or deny him his freedom. And the trust came by fighting on, by falling down, either one or the other or both, by forgiving again and again.

Lessons learnt.

Love and a relationship is like a venn diagram: two separate circles, A and B, overlapping only at a certain area of similarity and a *choice* to share.

A relationship is a choice of both parties to share a part of their lives with another. One does not belong to the other; there is no possession, only a conscious decision to stay, to remain.

Casey blew the autumn leaves at 9:05 AM


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Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Never let anger cloud your judgement.

More tmr morning. Something I defintely want to share.

And now, 2 days later, I've forgotten what I've wanted to type. >.<

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after much being annoyed*

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Lo and behold, I've remembered! *hint to STOP PRAWNING*

I don't think there ever is such a thing as a couple not having an argument even once in their relationship. They'd argue about cheating, why they didn't call the other, or even where to eat.

But that's not the point of this post.

Point is, how we resolve the argument, and whether we'd get a compromise, settlement, resolution, etc.

To get to that point however, one has to be of stable mind, and be clear in thought. One has to be calm, and not let emotion get in the way of understanding why the argument came about.

Especially anger.

It's easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment, I know. I've been there before, and been there recently. We had an argument about a small petty thing, and while the misunderstanding could've been simply resolved, we just somehow got caught in the heat of the moment.

We got annoyed by each other, and that became anger, and before long, we started to resent the other, etc. All because of a simple misunderstanding.

I don't really know what else to say. To me, the story says it all. If need be, argue it out, get angry and all. But make sure that you think clearly after that, and not remember or base your thoughts on the anger that has passed.

Peace...

W|LD_CARD blew the autumn leaves at 10:14 PM


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