"Everyone can have sex. But not everyone can handle sex." - Lilybird

That's a quote taken from one of the anonymous commentors and contributors of a book Az and I had read quite a while ago. The word "sex" caught our attention, and both of us decided to read it together, and discuss the issue.

I don't really know how to get this post started. I mean, it's not an easy topic to discuss that openly with everyone out there.

Maybe I'll begin by asking a question: how do you know when you're ready to start having sex?

We went through a phase just a few months ago, where the topic of making love was always on our minds. We wanted to: we both really wanted to. We'd discussed it for months on end, trying to be logical and having common sense about the "responsibilities and dangers of pre-marital sex."

For everyone's information: no, we didn't do it.

Why?

We're not ready. We're both not ready for the consequences. Even if we put aside things like pregnancy and safe sex by using pills and condoms and other what-nots, the issue which weighed the most on our minds is: how will we be after the act itself?

Sure. For any two people who claim to be "so in love," it's extremely easy to say (and to use as an excuse) that they both want to use sex as an act of "making love" and establishing a deeper connection.

While I don't deny that that can happen, the reverse can frequently also be true: that after doing it, one or both parties find that they regret the act for no other reason than the fact that they weren't mentally/spiritually/whatever-ly prepared for it.

So, when will we (or anyone for that matter) ever know we're ready?

Maybe when we both know that we want to do it without feeling that it's lust or raging hormones compelling us to do so; maybe when we both want to take that step with as clear a head as we both can; maybe after we've both talked the topic to death and finally feel that the time is right and we are willing to face whatever consequences to ourselves; maybe when we both feel like we will be able to help each other truly make love and know that that is indeed what feels right on the most basic level.

Till then, we'll wait.

We'll wait for the right time. The most responsible time. The most logical time. And most of all, the most respectable and truly... well, "right" time.