Helplessness. Support. Fairness. Appreciation.

I really don't know how to express this in words, what I'm feeling, except to ask questions. To each other. To everyone else.

Where do you draw the line, between hurting someone, and releasing your own hurt?

Is it fair to judge another just cos the person doesn't share your point of view?

Why does it mean so much to us, to have support in whatever we do, and to feel appreciated for even the littlest things?

How do you say something without hurting/disappointing/saddening another?

Where do you draw the line in helping, and trying to understand?

Where do you draw the line, when enough is enough?

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Humanity is cursed with one flaw. They can never learn anything completely unless they've seen the amount of hurt, damage, sadness, pain, destruction, tears, death. Only then, will they be able to see what they've done, and then start to learn, or even repent.

It's the same with relationships. You will come to times, when regardless of how good your intentions or anything are, you will hurt someone, and that's when you learn that you shouldn't have done that, or imposed yourself, etc.

While learning is one thing, handling the lesson as you learn is another, whether you're the one that's felt hurt, or the one that caused it.

For the one being hurt, it's not fair for you to really take it out on the other, and then hold it against him or her, and never being appreciative of the fact that he or she tried to help, or offer support. For the one that caused it, it's not fair to think that whatever you said or did, regardless of your intentions, is reason enough for you to weasel out of hurting the other. Bullshit.

In both cases, it's especially fatal to let it drag on, making each other stir in guilt, hurt, and not really talking it out.

It's a cliche. Life's never fair.

But where do you draw the line, when you find enough is enough?

If you're really in it for the long haul, there should only be one answer to that question. "Never." There is no perfect relationship. You're bound to find some things in the other that will either disappoint you, hurt you, sadden you. The question is, whether you're willing to talk it out, and face it, not wanting to lose the support you've had with each other.

Support. Something we will always look for in our lives. Physically, financially, and especially, emotionally. Sometimes, the journey to look for that support can hurt a lot. We may find flaws or things we don't like in another that can shake a support you're already having.

However, do not be quick to judge the support based on those flaws, since they can be the most support you'll ever find, or to be more accurate, the most honest support.

Talk it out. Learn. And appreciate the lesson, and each other.

Peace outz...