"Life is made of millions of moments, but we live only one of these moments at a time. As we begin to change this moment, we begin to change our lives." - Trinidad Hunt

Az and I spent our day jamming - him having his fill of drumming (like finally!) and teaching me some beats and giving me some pointers - and spending time together walking, joking, sitting down, lying down and feeling the wind over at Punggol Beach.

Moments.

As our relationship progresses (and I believe, as all relationship progress), things become more and more complex: there are more things, more factors to consider; more feelings arise, both negative and positive ones; life is taken into account; we learn how to live and be with each other.

As layers upon layers of complexities are laid on what the original core of the relationship was, we found ourselves losing sight of who we are, and who we both want to be, what we want our relationship to be. Perhaps it was fun; perhaps it was good to explore; but in the end, perhaps the complexities were not something we were ready to deal with, nor we were ready for.

Simple moments in the past became complex moments: filled with explorations, revelations, and desires.

Life is made up of everything, and yes, we enjoyed our moments filled with complexities. But we found that those soon obscured the basis for our relationship, and we started losing sight of the road we've walked upon.

We were given a chance today to re-find our path.

Spending a few hours at Punggol Beach, laying on the grass, listening to the howling of the wind, feeling the gentle warmth of the evening sun, talking, being quiet, stroking each other's faces, watching the sunset, giving each other support...all these led to the greatest joys found in the simplest of smiles, the most basic of touches: the squeeze of our hands on the other's.

There is no need to make things complex. I guess we both miss the "us" in our relationship a lot. Sure, there were a few self-gratifying moments for both of us, but...I guess we much prefer the "us" in our relationship, than the "me" in fulfilling our own wants. What's most important is that we must always remember not to let the complexities arising from the progression of a relationship to overshadow the core which should always be present: respect.

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Added March 16th 2006, 1015pm by Azri

All relationships become more and more complex as time goes. Some end up for the better, others for the worse. Couples might end up expecting more from each other. Expensive gifts, grandesque dinners, romantic evenings, sex, etc.

For us, I guess it was kinda a little of between, but more towards better, with some worse (doesn't make much sense, I know, but bear with me).

Even though we felt good, and enjoyed it, there was just something.... missing about it. We were happy, enjoyed it, gratified, etc, but somehow, there was that little something that was missing from all of it.

At first, we couldn't really place a finger to it. We knew it was there, but yeah. We didn't know what it was, etc. Hence, the "break" we decided to take. The answer didn't exactly come right after the break, but it did come from yesterday, when we were at the beach.

We missed loving each other.

Sounds mushy? Yeah well, shrugs. I really can't place it in a better way, but yeah. We were trying out darndest to be there for each other, making each other happy, meeting up often etc. But we forgot that one simple thing.

It didn't take an expensive dinner. It didn't take an expensive gift or a long getaway to Waikiki or Paris (though we'd both be glad to go for a getaway. Heh). It didn't take a wild passionate time in bed.

All it took, was just a simple moment, to share each other's company, and just, well, be "us."

I'll prob fully admit, that I really did miss "us." And in a big way, I'm glad we managed to find it back before we either lost it completely, or went on to more dangerous, stupid, etc things.

I dunno why, but if one cannot love another without the gifts, holidays, sex, I don't see the point. You might as well work for life, and live on your own money.

No, that's not love. It's when even in the simplest of moments, when you miss someone, and you just want to be with him or her. That's when you know.

Respect. Trust. Learning.

Caring. Appreciating. Loving.

Delusion is a dangerous thing.

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Added further by Azri

Just to share, a pic of us from that day...


Silly moment. Heh. =)

Peace...