There comes a point in time for all relationships, where we need space for ourselves, to think, to take a few steps back and observe the overall picture once again, and to ask the question of why we got together in the first place.

No, we didn't break up, if that's what you're wondering.

It wasn't easy getting together; it's not going to be easy asking ourselves why we're still together, for what, and what we want our paths to be.

Every relationship is formed from one basic reason: attraction at first. Whether the attraction remains as just a simple like or evolves into something more depends on many other reasons. Maybe it might even become love: two people who really understand each other, and complements each other, sacrificing, understanding, learning, respecting, trusting.

Loving.

There are many who lose sight of their original paths, their original intentions for getting together, whatever they are. There are some who, from like, learn love, and then become more obsessed with the idea of love, than what love truly means, itself. There are some whom like turns to lust.

Perhaps he and I have never really defined why we got together. Yes, we had a lot of familiarity: a lot of the same underlying experiences, a lot of the same fears, the same pain. There was attraction formed from friendship.

Is the relationship one of convenience, then?
No, I don't think so.

This is turning out to be quite the ramble, with my thoughts going off-tangent. But I guess, what I'm trying to put across is: we all need some space, some time to ourselves, to learn better as individuals so that we can make a relationship work. It doesn't have to be a big thing: every little bit counts.

Even taking the time and space to redefine the drive and the framework of what you want your relationship to be, can help you learn, understand, and accept.

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Added on 26/12/2006 by Az

What she said.

I think at a certain point of our everyone's lives, we all lose or forget the reason as to why we do or did things. It doesn't have to just e constrained to relationships. It can apply to many other things. Work, family, etc.

But this blog isn't about those matters, but more about us, the things we go through, and the things we learn from our relationship.

Don't get us wrong though. It's not that we're starting to get bored of each other, or starting to lose our feelings with each other. Think I can safely say that we both still do care/love each other, and that there isn't really anything other than personal obligations that prevent us from seeing each other more often or what not.

Even so, 6 months on, we've actually reached a point when we need some time to ourselves, sort out our thoughts and emotions, and like Case says, "look at the big picture" once again. Not cos our relationship is deteriorating, but cos we need to look at it again, and learn again why we got together in the first place, and not make our relationship evolve into something fluffy, something borne out of a "crush," something borne out of lust.

Truth be told, though we don't really show it that much to others or even ourselves, we really do value this relationship, and are willing to go through quite a lot to maintain it. Everyone needs their own space, even if for a while. But that's not gonna stop each other from still being there if the other needs it.

Peace...