"Sometimes, you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too, - even when you're in the dark. Even when you're falling."
-Morrie Schwartz, Tuesdays with Morrie.

Trust I feel, is a word used too often, and mean too little these days. Everybody more or less trusts each other, even if a little. But the problem with humanity sadly is that we tend to lose that trust easily, even though on some occasions, we've worked very hard for it.

Personally, I don't think any relationship can work without being able to trust the other. And I'm not just talking about being honest, truthful with each other, etc. I think it's too delusional to believe that each would never lie or cover the truth from each other. It happens. But that doesn't mean it should be abused la, so yeah. Once in a while, perhaps. Just don't overdo it, cos then you're just fooling not him/her, but yourself.

Either way, that's not the trust I was talking about. I guess, what I'm trying to say in reality, is that you should have faith in the other, that he or she can take care of themselves, and that they know you'll be around, or to that effect. In short, you have to believe that even though you're not there per se, or helping them, you still have to trust them.

Me, I've been guilty of worrying too much sometimes for my own good. Not only does it end up draining myself, but it also sometimes ends up irritating people. Some might disagree, and think that it's always nice to help others. Me? I've learnt that though they'd appreciate it, somtimes, they would still prefer to handle it by themselves. It's something that they have to do on their own, and we need to respect that.

Don't get me wrong. It's not that I'm saying people should completely let them take care of themselves, and not give a care for their well-being and what not. What I'm trying to say, is to believe in their own strength.

They're people as well, and people aren't as weak as those "people" portrayed on tv. We're selfish, one way or another. That said though, it doesn't mean we should completely ignore them as well. You don't always have to be there to offer a word of advice, helping hand, etc. Sometimes, all you need to do is let them know that you won't be intruding, but will be around when they fall.

"He's doing okay. He knows he has support from all of you. Most importantly, he seems to believe that you'll let him fall if he has to, but that you'll be there right beside him. He knows he doesn't have to deal with this on his own. That's the key."

Took that out of a fanfic Casey gave me. So yeah. Prob sums up best what I'm trying to put through. :)

Peace.