Respect. Trust. Learning.

Saturday, March 24, 2007

Communication. Ability to share. Balances.

I can't stress enough how vital communicating with each other is. I simply can't.

Even after my post on communication eons ago, misunderstandings and false expectations still came up, simply because we dropped into complacency, into expectations and more importantly, assumptions, the both of us. We'd gotten so used to each other we thought it easier and better to simply try to mind-read and assume what the other was thinking or feeling.

How many times must the cycle go on? How many times must this happen before we both learn that this is not the way to go? How many times before we drop our (my) damned pride and start talking about how we really feel about things?

Balances: it's all about balances.

But balance has never been so difficult to attain.

Casey blew the autumn leaves at 9:10 AM

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Sunday, February 18, 2007

Love is a possibility, made into a choice. A choice that you keep making, over and over.
- "Golden," Cameron Dokey

Casey blew the autumn leaves at 9:25 PM

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Saturday, December 23, 2006

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
if we ever get married, what would be the first thing you'd say to me on the first night as husband and wife?

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
i know!

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
"Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!"

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
WAHT THE??????

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
hee

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
and yups. "wheeee"

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
laughs

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
you'd be that happy huh?

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
double wheeeeeeeeeeeee

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
lol

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
ok. ur turn

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
same question. plus, what would be the first thing you'd do once we're alone

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
thing i'

Az - Holiday Armadillo says:
thing i'd say: "I proposed!"

Casey: A dark phoenix; we laugh and laugh because we have no more tears left to cry says:
AHAHAHAHAHA

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Inside joke. Don't ask. Laughs!

W|LD_CARD blew the autumn leaves at 1:44 AM

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Saturday, December 09, 2006

It's been quite a long time since we've been together.

We've been talking about serious matters, about learning, and about a lot of other things for so long that I feel that we've almost run out of things to discuss in-depth about.

It's been a year and four months. No, it isn't long, as compared with others who've been in longer relationships. But it's been quite some time for us, and we've learnt so many things we've almost covered everything. Almost.

I think that after all this time, it's gone beyond a point of learning more about each other, or even learning about each other: how we are, how we tick, and all that.

It's come to a point where it's almost all about tolerance, understanding, and most of all, acceptance, that the person is the way he is, with his good points, and his foibles; with his quirks and his habits; with all his passions and sorrows and grief and fears and dreams. It's about learning how to be together.

It's about change, and about how one shouldn't, and cannot force the other to change simply for the relationship, or for selfish reasons. If the person wishes to change, he must do so because it is simply his own desire, not the desire of the other, not even changing because of the desire of the other person to make him better. It must come from within.

"Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less."
- Rabbi Julius Gordon

Casey blew the autumn leaves at 11:05 PM

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Monday, November 27, 2006

Sometimes, going through so much adversity together can be tiring. Frequently, it can be more than downright exhausting. And there will be so many times either side would want to give up, simply out of sheer weariness, or because of fear, because of pain, because of past ghosts of memories haunting the present.

But, after knowing what's going through in the relationship with a long-sundered acquaintance, I found myself being thankful for the adversities we've gone through. Or, maybe I should say: I found myself being thankful for the lessons we learnt; more speficially, I learnt.

It took the hardships (long discussions and fears about religions; talking about our past wounds; dealing with present stresses and demands by ourselves and by others; tight tempers and frayed nerves...you get the idea) to build up a certain level of trust, of knowing that when things go wrong, one can count on the other as much as possible.

It takes a certain level of trust in the other not to possess him, nor smother him, or deny him his freedom. And the trust came by fighting on, by falling down, either one or the other or both, by forgiving again and again.

Lessons learnt.

Love and a relationship is like a venn diagram: two separate circles, A and B, overlapping only at a certain area of similarity and a *choice* to share.

A relationship is a choice of both parties to share a part of their lives with another. One does not belong to the other; there is no possession, only a conscious decision to stay, to remain.

Casey blew the autumn leaves at 9:05 AM

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Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Never let anger cloud your judgement.

More tmr morning. Something I defintely want to share.

And now, 2 days later, I've forgotten what I've wanted to type. >.<

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after much being annoyed*

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Lo and behold, I've remembered! *hint to STOP PRAWNING*

I don't think there ever is such a thing as a couple not having an argument even once in their relationship. They'd argue about cheating, why they didn't call the other, or even where to eat.

But that's not the point of this post.

Point is, how we resolve the argument, and whether we'd get a compromise, settlement, resolution, etc.

To get to that point however, one has to be of stable mind, and be clear in thought. One has to be calm, and not let emotion get in the way of understanding why the argument came about.

Especially anger.

It's easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment, I know. I've been there before, and been there recently. We had an argument about a small petty thing, and while the misunderstanding could've been simply resolved, we just somehow got caught in the heat of the moment.

We got annoyed by each other, and that became anger, and before long, we started to resent the other, etc. All because of a simple misunderstanding.

I don't really know what else to say. To me, the story says it all. If need be, argue it out, get angry and all. But make sure that you think clearly after that, and not remember or base your thoughts on the anger that has passed.

Peace...

W|LD_CARD blew the autumn leaves at 10:14 PM

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Thursday, October 26, 2006

What defines a nice day?

No, it's not when you win the lottery.

Neither is it when you get laid by someone you've been trying to hook up with.

It's not when you get an expensive gift.

And it sure as hell isn't when you meet your in-laws.

Watching a movie together might constitue a nice day.

I sincerely doubt lousy food will.

Perhaps a night under the stars is a nice day.

Or even a picnic out on the beach.

But you know what's a nice day to me?

It's not what we do for or with each other, or where we go. It's when I see you smile a content, and happy smile. It's when I see you smile almost every moment of the day, and I smile as well. It's when... after quite a long time, we're just, well, truly enjoying each other's company, and being happy.

Now THAT'S, a nice day.

And you know what? Today was one such day.

Here's to more.

Smiles.

Peace...

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Added at 11.30pm by Casey

A nice day also includes chilled coconut with very sweet juice and soft flesh.

A nice day is when we both make a mess out of things, but laugh with each other and continue enjoying ourselves.

A nice day is good company, feeling warmth, and having hugs.

Yay for today. =)

W|LD_CARD blew the autumn leaves at 11:20 PM

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